Amber Cole "The Victim"

The Amber Cole controversy seems like a repeat of the R. Kelly scandal, except this time it’s more real and for some of us, it hit a little closer to home.  Two high school students engaging in sexual activities on campus is a scary thing to imagine for parents.  For those of you who have teenagers at home, it’s hard to picture your child participating in something they have no business even thinking about in the first place.  Amber Cole is a girl that was simply in love with a boy.  Like most women, she wanted to do whatever it took to keep her boyfriend in her life.  Do not misunderstand, never under any circumstances is it okay for a fourteen year old to have sex.  A fourteen year old girl should be thinking about cheerleading, prom, college and her career goals.  Sadly in this new society our children are growing up faster than we planned and what is even sadder, the way technology is advancing, you could probably record a full length movie on your mobile devices.  Amber Cole is a victim of a cruel joke that went too far.  Her ex-boyfriend took advantage of her feelings. For hm it was all fun and used it for his own personal amusement.  So before you all start pointing your fingers, try to put yourself in Amber’s shoes.  Try to imagine what it I she was feeling at that particular moment.  Then plan to sit down with your children and talk about sex, drugs, and natural feelings they may be feeling for the opposite sex.  Yes, I said it.  This society is still very old school in some ways.  Sex is the forbidden topic between parents and kids.  Talk to them about how camera phones can ruin their lives with the click of a button.  Try to teach them how to make the right decisions.  Parenting is not just birthing a child into this world, feeding them until they are too fat to breath or buying them the latest name brand clothing.  Your job does not end there.  As a parent, you have dedicated your lives to raising a child to be a better version of you.  Please, we have to break this cycle.